Angela Deem, a prominent cast member of the reality TV show “90 Day Fiancé,” recently made headlines for her explosive behavior during an anger management therapy session. Known for her fiery personality and confrontational nature, Angela’s outburst showcased her determination to defend herself against any perceived attack. In the session, she boldly declared, “You come after me, I’m gonna come back stronger.”
On Monday’s episode of 90 Day: The Last Resort Dr. Janie Lacy was trying to help Angela understand what may have caused the trauma she suffered during a recent relationship.
Dr. Lacy said, “Angela has some issues with how she manages her emotions. Her anger has served her well in how she’s moved through life and sometimes people are most afraid of what life would be like without their armor.” When dr. Janie finally confronts Angela at her hotel she tells her about what she had heard occurred the night before. She says to Angela, “I heard things were not level 10, they were level 12. I understand you were part of that.” To which Angela responds with, “Who ratted me out?” Dr. Janie tells her that she is also staying there at the hotel. “I’m staying here at the resort too and I’m in touch with the resort staff because we do want to make sure this is a pleasurable great experience for everybody.”
Later during Angelas’ confessional, she tells production, “Dr. Janie telling me that she needs to speak to me about the incident that happened last night makes me feel again that I’m the bad person. But you come after me, I’m gonna come back stronger.”
When Angela had asked Dr. Janie about her behavior the Dr. changed the subject and asked Angela what caused her to have the outburst. Angela tells her, “I just get sick of Liz playing the victim. When Liz made that comment, like, ‘All night, you’ve talked over me. It just reminded me of [my husband] Michael — like, You just lying dead in my damn face. I’m not taking it. I took it a whole year with my husband lying, and cheating. Especially if you’re right in my face telling me I’ve done something I ain’t. I do go off because I’m not taking it from anyone. Michael’s lied so much, he’s traumatized me.” Dr. Janie felt that it wasn’t what Liz said it was how she presented it.
Angela also told Dr. Janie that it isn’t in her nature to just back down. “I worked at the prison. So that’s something that I always take when we ever were to, you know, I can’t help that and maybe that’s my problem” Dr. Janie did tell Angela that being the way she is can be “a beautiful thing. But sometimes our most beautiful qualities there are two sides to the coin right? There’s another side of the coin and sometimes it comes from a pain point.” Angela then tells the doctor she does know she has problems. She tells her, “I have a problem with trying to express my words. I don’t have the comfort everybody has, I don’t have no one to help me stop. I mean I get upset.”
Dr. Janie does show that she is filled with compassion for Angela once she arrives at the retreat alone. She tells her, “It’s difficult, you are here on a couples retreat, and part of your couple isn’t here. Long-distance relationships are hard, especially with the amount of time the two of you’ve been apart.” She wants Angela to work on her ” anger response” especially during the retreat.
Angela says in another confessional, “Today’s session with Dr. Janie. She’s right. Never thought of it like that. She’s right, and my triggers sometimes make me be too aggressive and that’s the same aggressiveness with Michael — and maybe I have some fixing to do too. Maybe. I love Michael, and I don’t want our only communication to be just screaming and hollering. I want to learn a new way, a better way to communicate instead of getting upset. I have to if we’re gonna fix this.”
Anger management therapy is designed to help individuals understand and control their emotions effectively. It aims to provide them with tools and strategies to manage their anger in healthier ways. However, Angela’s defiant attitude toward the therapy raises questions about her willingness to change.
While some may view Angela’s statement as a sign of resilience and strength, it also reflects a lack of self-reflection and openness to personal growth. True personal development requires individuals to acknowledge their shortcomings and work towards positive change. By adamantly asserting that she will only become stronger when challenged.
It is essential for individuals participating in anger management therapy to approach it with humility and a genuine desire for self-improvement. Without this willingness, the effectiveness of such therapy becomes questionable.
Angela Deem’s declaration during her anger management therapy session on “90 Day Fiancé” highlights both her determination and potential resistance toward personal growth. While her statement may be seen as empowering by some, it also raises concerns about her ability to truly benefit from the therapeutic process. To achieve meaningful change in managing one’s anger or any other aspect of life, humility, and openness are crucial factors that should not be overlooked.
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